The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About Hardcover – December 24, 2024

I just started listing to her podcasts so got the book. I usually avoid self-help, but I liked her message. The main is simple and accessible and was, for me, a reminder of things I know, things that are come from Zen philosophy and codependence actions/theories (don't be scared--it's not academic or boring or prescriptive as these things can sometimes be), but rather a well-written reminder with gems thrown in. If you know & like Mel's "voice" and approach from her podcast, you'll love the book. I am so glad I bought the hard copy because I like to underline ideas and be able to flip back to them, and I will definitely refer to this book again.

I’ll be honest—when I first heard about The Let Them Theory, I assumed it was another trendy self-help idea that would sit on my nightstand half-read. But within the first few pages, I felt like someone had finally put words to something I’ve needed for years: permission to let go.This book is simple, powerful, and honestly kind of freeing. The core idea? Let people do what they’re going to do—and stop exhausting yourself trying to control, correct, or constantly manage it. It sounds obvious, but the way it’s explained hit differently. It’s not about being passive; it’s about protecting your peace.I’ve already used it in so many parts of my life: with family, at work, even in little moments like not overthinking texts or worrying what someone thinks of me. “Let them” has become my mental reset button.Highly recommend.

Not a fan of self-help books, I debated buying one which would surely be a waste of money and time again. However, after hearing much buzz about this one being on every bestseller list and a top book club pick, I gave in. Maybe it would be worthy of my time. It mostly was, and now I find myself saying about different situations, “Let them.” That mind set does help me keep from wasting energy on what I can’t control, comparing myself to other people, and overthinking. The chapters I liked best helped me to understand how friendship groups change through the years, and if I feel left out, it could be my fault. Since I’m married, I mostly ignored the chapters on how to improve one’s dating life. The book is divided into two parts: Let Them and Let Me. I found value in both, surprising myself by reading to the very end. Parts of the book are repetitive, but maybe when we are learning new ways to think or act, redundancy will help it sink in.

I loved this book because it gave you practical tools to use in your every day life. Mel wrote from her own experiences and if it worked for her it can work for all. You just have to change your mindset and realize how you've been handling things all wrong. These practical tools and tips have been game changing for me. It takes time to retrain your brain and to apply the Let them tools. This book helped me handle things with less anger, less anxiety, and better sleep now. I've bought the book for my for friends and even some family members as well. I would highly recommend this book to all.

The “Let Them” Theory — For Leaders & HR ProsWhat It Is:The “Let Them” theory is a simple but powerful approach to boundaries, emotional intelligence, and leadership clarity.Instead of overreacting or over-accommodating when others act unpredictably or unfairly, we pause and say:“Let them.”Then, we observe. Their actions reveal more than words ever will.What You ControlYou can’t force others to communicate, collaborate, or care —but you can decide:• Who you promote• Who stays on your team• How you coach and document behavior• How you model emotional maturity

I gave this book 4.5 stars.I am a people pleaser AND a control freak. I needed this book to remind me to live in the present, be the person I was intended to be and let others do the same.I saw myself in many of the stories she wrote about. Me trying to make plans and getting upset when things weren't perfect or not liking myself because I am not perfect.I was not the best mom, I am not the most awesome wife, I'm not the grandkids favorite grandparent, but my family knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that I love them and that I am proud of them.So, when things aren't going the way I had planned, I learned to Let Them do their thing and they, and I, Let Me be the imperfect person I am and we get on with loving each other in the best way we can.I highly suggest this book.

I absolutely love & highly recommend this book! I have told near strangers I overheard complaining about family members about the book LOLI would argue with one premise in the 2nd half of the book about adult friendships -- the requirement of proximity ... in this time of so much online communication I have developed close friendships with like-minded people via Zoom, texts, and classes. The times we were able to meet physically helped a lot to anchor those friendships, and the consistent online communication is key! I live in a small rural community where like-minded is tough to find. These online friends are a lifeline I cherish.

The Let Them Theory truly lives up to its title as a life-changing tool. It offers a powerful yet simple mindset shift: instead of trying to control other people's actions, you "let them" — and focus on protecting your own peace. This book is short, direct, and incredibly impactful.It helped me realize how much emotional energy I was wasting on things outside of my control. The message is not about giving up — it's about letting go of the urge to fix, chase, or force situations and people.Whether you're dealing with difficult relationships, anxiety, or just feeling drained from constantly reacting to others, this book offers clarity, empowerment, and peace. A quick read, but one that stays with you.